Dating play hard to get

12-Sep-2016 03:54

In one test, they identified the ways people play hard-to-get and how often men and women use them.From a list of 58 strategies, nearly 500 American college students rated 'acting confident' and 'talking to others' as the two most commonly used methods of playing hard-to-get.Singles are bombarded with advice from books, articles and friends on how to find and keep “the one.” Knowledge is power so in theory it’s a good thing that there is such a plethora of information available to shed light on the often confusing and convoluted world of dating.But the problem is that almost each new dating book that comes out contradicts a book that was previously looked at as the Bible of dating.When looking for love, dating books and well-meaning friends may advise guys and gals to play hard-to-get.And now pretending not to be interested in a potential partner to increase your desirability is gaining some scientific support: A new study suggests that if you want a serious relationship, it pays for men and women to be hard-to-get.When guys wanted to appear less available, they used only three methods more than gals did including 'acting snooty or rude,' 'saying all the right things but not calling,' and 'treating others like s#@t.' Not surprisingly to anyone who's been single, researchers found that women played hard-to-get more often than men did."Women derive more benefit from playing hard-to-get because it allows them to test men out and increase the demand men place on them," says study author Peter Jonason, Ph D, an assistant professor of psychology at the University of Western Sydney in Australia.

Some relationship experts say that in order to keep a man interested a woman has to appear too busy for him while others say it’s best for a woman to be upfront with her feelings even if that means making the first move. It is best not to mislead the men you date with cat and mouse games but there is a certain level of technique and restraint that you should apply in the preliminary stages of dating if you want to keep the right man interested.Granted, at an earlier point in my life, such game-playing might have made me feel very interested in a guy, I know that within two minutes of meeting him.And in a case like that, absolutely nothing — not playing hard to get, not following up confidently — will change my opinion. If anything is going to work in a guy's favor when it comes to initiating a healthy relationship, it's being confident enough to clearly ask for a second date very quickly after the first!Men, on the other hand, don’t care so much about women’s height, men care a lot about BMI, body mass index.

And websites don’t give you BMI, but they give you height and weight and you can calculate BMI.Kristen Doerer: Based on what you told me last time, I’m going to guess ,000.

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